Mutual apologized inner and outer part of the tradition of Eid al-Fitr. Outside the context of worship, forgive or let go of emotional wounds turned out to also bring positive benefits to health because it can make someone become more healthy body and soul.
If we can sincerely mememafkan and forget, there are many healthful benefits. Research shows forgiveness helps lower blood teranan, strengthens the immune system and lowers stress hormones circulating in the blood.
Research also shows people who have been able to forgive confessed symptoms of digestive disorders, headaches and back pain are also reduced.
In a study of 71 people revealed a direct effect of anger. "When the respondents focus on things that are unforgivable, their blood pressure rises, so too with a heartbeat," said Charlotte vanOyen Witvliet candidate and professor of psychology at Hope College.
Conversely, when they were asked to respond to something with the apology, the muscles relax and breathing becomes more regular.
Not only that forgiveness is also closely linked to good mental health. Forgiveness will reduce anger, depression, resentment, hatred, and various other negative emotions. In essence, forgiveness makes us happier.
However many people consider it difficult to forgive. Of course, forgiveness from the deepest heart can not be forced. If the situation is extremely painful, perhaps for quite a while we see forgiveness as a purely internal phenomenon itself.
However, we can bring encouragement to forgive by regulating the mind that forgiveness is a form of affection, it is necessary to develop a relationship of peace, and prevent retaliation.
Everett L. Worthington Jr., professor of psychology and penulit book Forgiveness and Reconcilliation: Theory and Applications, divides into two types of forgiveness.
The first was the decision to forgive (Decisional Forgiveness), where a person chooses to let go of thoughts that cause anger. Suppose we say to yourself "I would not take revenge", or "I would avoid that person,".
"We can choose the decision to forgive, but there are still emotions that are not forgiving in their hearts," said Worthington.
Should we have achieved is to forgive emotional, ie, replacing negative emotions such as resentment, hatred, anger, and fear, a feeling of sympathy, empathy, love, and love.
"Forgiveness is more emotional impact on health because when we can not do that will arise as a result of chronic stress reactions obsession with painful things that happen. We continue to see ourselves as victims," he said.
